I could not resist the title. Just this moment I can see a sweet little bird perched in the juniper tree outside my window. It is a treat. I think he is looking at me. I tried to take a picture but my movement made him fly away.
What I sat down to write about was last night's breakthrough. It was time. For a week or two Miss J has been napping in her toddler bed. I pushed it up to our bed as you see in the picture so that she can be closer and more easily climb into our bed if need be. Also, during the night, I first get her to sleep in her toddler bed. She inevitably wakes sometime, usually before midnight, and climbs into bed with us. Even just an hour or two of reclaiming the bed for ourselves has been lovely. But I still didn't cut off night nursing. I haven't ever had the heart to.
Then Monday night was a rough one. I finally had enough.
So I came up with this plan. Last night in the middle of the night, I let June nurse when she woke first and climbed into bed with us. After that when she awoke and requested boobies, the boobies had gone "night night" and she was out of luck.
Amazingly, surprisingly, she did not protest much and went straight back to sleep. She did wake up really early and wanted to nurse again - around 5:15, but thankfully not every 45 minutes wanting to nurse as she had the night before.
She has become a lot more demanding and with that I feel she has achieved another level of comprehension. It made me feel she was ready for this next step. Heck, if she can tell me to "Move!" in the middle of the night and indicate which boobie she prefers, she is ready to be talked to about letting everyone sleep better.
Soon, I hope, she will no longer need (or desperately want) to nurse to sleep at all.
I'm not cutting off nursing altogether. Just limiting it. And I think it is a nice balance.
P.S. I got the idea from Dr. Sears' article, 12 Alternatives for the All Night Nurser. I had read this article before and tried different techniques, but I think this is a keeper.